Keeping Your Crown: The Black Woman’s Guide to Reclaiming Greatness Book Tour Authors: Joyce & Debra Glenn
Keeping Your Crown: The Black Woman’s Guide to Reclaiming Greatness is a call to action to challenge black women to live up to their full potential. Black women are strong, beautiful, astute and invaluable leaders worthy of the title “Queen.” This book insists that black women raise their personal standards and lead lives reflective of greatness. In particular, there are five specific areas black women should improve upon to advance their own lives and the state of Black America. These five areas include: managing our love lives, understanding men, strengthening our sisterhood, changing our views on single motherhood, and improving our self-image. Keeping Your Crown is an eye-opening book that forces black women to realize, they hold the power and potential of the black community in their hands. Keeping Your Crown encourages black women to live with purpose and intention and serve as positive agents of change within the black community.
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Section 4: HOW “DADDY ISSUES” ARE DESTROYING “BLACK LOVE”
In addition to the previously mentioned harmful effects children endure, single parent households are also threatening the institution of marriage and productive, loving relationships. When women have children without the example of marriage, they are contributing to a generation of people who do not know how to love each other. There’s an influx of children being raised without fathers and suffering from daddy issues. These children grow into adults who have no clue how to love another person. They unceasingly struggle to form loving partnerships. Because positive examples of “black love” are rarely demonstrated in the home, our young kings and queens do not know how to treat each other properly. People gripe and complain about the lack of love in society nowadays. This lack of love and respect for one another is apparent in today’s music. The lyrics in music are a clear indication that the majority of our youth do not know how to perform respectful exchanges while dating. They insist they want “that 90’s R&B love.” Well, that love dissipated when people began having children out of wedlock at alarming rates. The newer generations are not witnessing “black love” like the older generations. In many instances, their parents don’t even like each other and fail to co-parent respectfully. What can children born from these loveless relationships possibly know about love? Broken homes are making people lonelier than ever. Even when children are produced from loving, healthy marriages, they cannot form healthy connections with people with daddy issues. These dysfunctions are too overwhelming for stable people to repair or tolerate. Relationships are built on trust and people who suffer from daddy issues are often too distrusting—due to abandonment issues and other let downs—to give and receive love properly. Human beings are intensely interconnected and need positive human interaction to be happy. People fail to realize how the mistakes they make when “raising” their children will affect how their children will connect to and interact with other people. In order for your children to give and receive love, they must first witness a healthy, functioning relationship from their mother and father. As a result of witnessing dysfunctional relationships and in turn, developing daddy issues, women are more promiscuous and men are more feminine than ever before! This role-reversal is out of control and must be stopped. Without the opportunity to watch their parents function in a successful relationship, our youth will continue to be confused about gender roles and what responsibilities they are expected to fulfill as men and women. Not only is the single motherhood epidemic ruining black communities, it is also destroying “black love.” This problem must be combated to enrich and improve the state of Black America.
Another problem with the single motherhood epidemic is that it creates disrespectful and strained relationships between black men and women. Black men and women must treat each other better and strive for loving, healthy and respectful relationships. It is malicious and selfish to force a man to become a father if he is not ready and if he is financially incapable. Forcing a man to become a father prematurely is damaging to his manhood, his self-worth and lessens his likelihood of succeeding. Black women must stop pinning children on underdeveloped black men before they are established and capable of providing for a child. Sure it may seem as though women are receiving more blame and liability in this situation but this is simply because women are typically more mature. Women also have control over what happens to their bodies. Women can use birth control, require men to wear condoms and use a morning after pill following a reckless night. She can even terminate an accidental pregnancy conceived with an immature man who will undoubtedly be an unfit father. It is ultimately the woman’s decision that determines whether she becomes a mother and whether he becomes a father. Part of being a queen entails assuming the role of a protector over our black kings. Don’t make decisions that will negatively impact a black man’s life if you have the power to avoid doing so. Don’t take advantage of a man’s naivety and stupidity by forcing him to fill a role he is incapable of fulfilling. Black women must protect black men in situations when they don’t know any better. If we expect men to protect us physically, we must protect them judiciously by keeping their best interests in mind, especially when it benefits the black community. Additionally, black men are wrongly incarcerated everyday so don’t allow child support jail time to serve as another means of incarcerating black men. Black women must stop procreating with broke men, expecting them to furnish loads of money once the child arrives, as if his financial situation would have miraculously improved overnight. The decision to become a parent signifies that one is mature enough to “bite the bullet” and accept the consequences that come along with having a child. When a woman chooses to have a child by a man who lacks resources, this decision indicates that she is content with a life of financial hardship. Don’t penalize a man for being a loser after you’ve allowed him to get you pregnant. At this point, you are the one to blame for turning a “little boy” into a father instead of denying him time, attention, energy and sex as a real woman should. Instead, black men and women must support one another in becoming successful. Black men and women must love each other better. We must agree to wear protection and focus on becoming better people prior to becoming parents. Having children out of wedlock and prior to achieving success is damaging to both black men and women as well as to our children and our community.
THE GLENN TWINS Joyce & Debra Glenn are models, actors, TV Hosts and entrepreneurs. Their career in the entertainment industry began when they started modeling at age 16. The twins’ modeling assignments consisted of cosmetic contracts, hair ads, editorial spreads and catalogue work. Their appearances together in major music videos made them popular “video vixens” and tremendously increased their familiarity which inspired the twins to begin branding themselves as “The Glenn Twins.” They had notable featured appearances in popular videos for major artists such as 50 Cent, Lil Wayne, Bow Wow, Jim Jones and R.Kelly. The twins eventually transitioned into acting and TV hosting as well. While working both together and individually, they landed roles in films, television and commercials. They had a major cameo in the feature film Fast And Furious 5 (Fast Five) and appeared in hit television shows such as The Rickey Smiley Show, Single Ladies and The Game.
Aside from their pursuits in the entertainment industry, the twins are passionate business women with BBAs in accounting (graduating Magna Cum and Suma Cum Laude) and are members of the prestigious business honor society, Beta Gamma Sigma. The twins have always had a desire to use their influence to empower women and bring awareness to social issues that will initiate positive change within the black community. To keep up with their latest endeavors, visit www.GlennTwins.com.
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